The coach does not pay attention to the child - Jetem. Where to go if you are insulted at school: student by student Coach to abuse a child what to do

Good morning!

All the children’s reactions to this behavior of the coach (in my opinion, ridiculous, but maybe this is a feature of training at their school? I’m not an expert in martial arts, and I cannot exclude that the coach is pursuing his educational line in this way, by analogy with what how sergeants conduct it, forcing recruits to clean their boots with a toothbrush) can be divided into short-term and long-term.

Short-term reactions (feelings of resentment, anger, decreased mood, decreased performance, anger, etc.) are transient in nature, can be of varying degrees of severity depending on the individual characteristics of the child, and are usually forgotten after a few days. They do not have any negative consequences on the future state of mental health, just as a black eye received in childhood does not have its consequences on wedding photography.

Long-term reactions, which are essentially neurotic in nature, are the result of a) chronic traumatic exposure; b) individual reduction of the threshold of resistance to stress; c) external environmental influences that reinforce neurotic reactions. Not a single neurotic reaction lasts a lifetime, but it may well last for several years, and then (if an unfortunate combination of circumstances) be the cause of a personal transformation, which practically becomes indelible, acquiring the properties of a characterological feature.

What, in my opinion, should be done. 1) In the evening after training, ask your son if he likes working out in the section. Regardless of the answer yes or no, ask why you like it or why you don’t like it. Don't tell your child the answer! Just listen carefully, ask neutral questions - how is the lesson going, what did you learn to do, is your son tired, etc. 2) If during a 15-minute conversation the child does not say anything about the coach’s ridiculous jokes, then this topic is simply not relevant for him and there is no reason to worry. If the topic sounds neutral, ask if he was offended by the coach for making a stupid joke. If not, or at first you were offended and then forgot, then everything is fine again. 3) If the topic sounds sharp, if the feeling of resentment does not disappear until the evening, if the child remembers this episode with irritation and anger, then we have a short-term reaction. Then the conclusion is simple: either you ask the coach not to say that again (and remain confident that this really won’t happen again, and make it clear to your son that he won’t be offended again because you protected him), or you simply stop taking your child to the section . In any case, it is necessary to provide the child with compensatory replacement: it must be some difficult situation that the child can cope with brilliantly (for everything to go according to plan, you must become a director for a while) - a hike, a competition, building a birdhouse or a dog kennel, a swim across the river to the opposite bank (in a word, something that the young man can be proud of having accomplished). Never buy toys, etc. as a consolation. - otherwise you will perpetuate the negative reaction, because the child will learn to benefit from it.

1. A girl (8 years old) from a large military family. We came to our city for a year. I went to the swimming section at the school pool (primary classes). I am a grandfather and am accompanying her. Boys' mothers are allowed in the men's locker room, but I was prohibited from going into the women's locker room to help her change. As a result, the granddaughter puts clothes on a wet swimsuit, stands in tights on the wet floor and uses a hairdryer at the security post when entering the pool, and not like other girls in the locker room. How to file a complaint addressed to the school principal regarding the coach.

Lawyer Frolov A.A., 559 answers, 331 reviews, on the site from 08/16/2019
1.1. You can make a complaint in any form, describe in it what, in your opinion, is illegal/wrong and either personally bring it to the school or send it by letter.

2. There was an accident in our city. A 3rd grade girl drowned in the pool. I accompanied the children in transporting them to the pool. It was summer at school camp. We took the children to the sports and recreation center and handed them over to the coach, then we met them in the locker room and took them to school. The girl's heart suddenly stopped in the water, then she fell and drowned. The medic immediately provided first aid... Many trials have passed, no one is guilty. Parents always disagree and continue to sue! They have already been paid 2 million. I am constantly being dragged to interrogations and trials. It's been over a year now. Question: Can I write some complaint or anything? On whom? So that they don’t call me in for interrogation! Cause moral and material damage. The trials take place in another city. I have to spend money and time on the road... and it’s very hard to remember and worry about all this again!

Lawyer Plyasunov K.A., 145,007 answers, 35,783 reviews, on the site since 02/26/2013
2.1. Hello.
You need to read the documents.

3. The essence of the issue: an agreement was concluded with a fitness club and additional payment was made for individual training with a trainer. The subscription has ended, I have no complaints, except that the club does not refund my money for personal training that is no longer relevant. An application for a refund was written, but in response there was silence, they fed me “breakfast”. There are many clients on the Internet with whom the fitness club did the same. The argument in favor of non-refund is this: “the legal entity with which you entered into an agreement no longer exists,” although in reality it exists and successfully concludes agreements.
I ask for at least a minimum set of instructions on what to do next.
How to get my money back? Is there a sample complaint that a club needs to submit before filing a complaint with the appropriate authorities? Which authorities deal with these issues?
Thank you in advance!

Lawyer Emelyanenko N. Yu., 1066 answers, 558 reviews, on the site from 11/02/2016
3.1. Good evening! You need to write a claim. To file a claim, you can contact any lawyer for a fee.

Lawyer Sokolov D.G., 142277 answers, 33029 reviews, on the site since November 23, 2008
3.2. Dasha, since you have already written a statement, you need to file a claim in court. You can, of course, first write another, more literate, claim regarding the STD. Drafting documents costs money.
Contact a lawyer for competent work in court, including contacting one of the people who answered your question.

4. Please tell me, can I file a complaint against a gymnastics coach who, in an open lesson in front of everyone, had a negative impact on the child’s self-esteem, after which the daughter cried and she kicked us out. Didn't return the money for the lesson. How can I tame this gymnastics queen? What can I do in this case? In addition, the coach collected money for the mat without fail, despite the fact that gymnastics in sk silhouette is her business and her investment. She kicked out the woman who didn’t pay. Should her parents repay her investment? Now I want to send a message asking for a refund for the failed lesson and carpet. If she refuses, what can I do?

Lawyer Stepanov A. E., 35394 answers, 23838 reviews, on the site from 07/21/2017
4.1. Ekaterina, if we are talking about a government institution, then you can write complaints to the department of education and the prosecutor’s office.
Sincerely.

Law firm LLC "PRAVOPRO", 20568 answers, 12061 reviews, on the site since 05/18/2017
4.2. Good afternoon
At the very least, a complaint to the prosecutor's office and the education department. All fees are voluntary.
Best wishes to you!

Lawyer Zlatkin A.M., 35228 answers, 17114 reviews, on the site from 04/18/2015
30.3. They are not obligated to provide you with anything at all; they will be obligated to provide this recording only to law enforcement agencies after the initiation of a criminal case or to the court upon request.

Lawyer Barsukova M.V., 2203 answers, 1107 reviews, on the site from 06/16/2017
30.4. Good afternoon File a complaint with Rospotrebnadzor, this is the body that monitors compliance with consumer rights
All the best!

I’ll try to describe it in order and without emotion. But I can’t get enough letters. Try to master it - I really need advice or at least fresh thoughts.

The child has been swimming for 6 years; two years ago we switched (we asked to see her) to a coach who was recommended to us and highly praised as a specialist. I must say that we don’t have many coaches, and if we count sports groups, then I know three - ours, her husband and a young guy with whom they constantly compete (they didn’t take him into account before, but his children began to show no worse, but sometimes the results are better) She is a unique lady for us, as a coach she is demanding, quite responsible, the results of her students are also among the best in the city. As a person, it’s difficult and incomprehensible for me (I’m afraid not only for me, because she’s already quarreled with both management and the team in two swimming pools) An eternally dissatisfied face, it’s impossible to understand anything, but statuses on networks about ungrateful people, etc.

Having passed last year, my child completed two sports categories within a year and outperformed all her peers, despite the fact that she is small and thin. I believe this is due to the fact that our coach (let’s call her TR) has a stronger emphasis on strength training than the previous one. Of course she flew happy. At the end of the year, we went to competitions from Russian Railways without a coach (the sports school has nothing to do with Russian Railways), passed the selection and went to the finals in Sochi, also without TR, and were injured there (I cut my leg while riding a bicycle - the result was 8 stitches and a month without training) .

This year the results began and almost froze, naturally the child soured, conversations began “he might quit,” and the strength training (running, skiing at the training camp) was the best in the group. I tried to talk to TR that the child was turning sour - he was trying as hard as he could, but there were no results, maybe there was a problem with the technique? TR said she tried to talk to her, she leaves. The child is indeed often inattentive and may “listen and not hear” or not understand what is being said to her, or understand it in her own way. At the slightest cry, she used to start crying, but now she’s trying to restrain herself, so she scowls, falls silent and tries to leave, and then at home she either freaks out or sobs, or all of the above (as I understand, from the outside her arrogance is perceived as arrogance and stubbornness) After the conversation, TR seems to be I started working with her more closely, explaining mistakes, and even the results began to shift a little.

Now the situation itself: this year the Russian Railways Spartakiad is again (the child always waits for it like a miracle). Well, the miracles began. Our TR stated that either the children go with her or they don’t go at all. She was somehow taken (for selection). To be fair, it must be said that all three children who went were her pupils and of course it was normal that she went, although I repeat that she has nothing to do with Russian Railways and I don’t know how they did it. My child passed the selection, the final in Kazan (of course there is a lot of happiness), the organizers asked whether they would let her go or not, she replied that her parents would let her go, but the coach would not. To which the organizers said that the main thing is that the parents let them go. I don’t know in what form this was said verbatim, I wasn’t there. But

Our TR arrived blacker than a cloud, we decided that she was offended for being greeted without flowers and deferams (there were such hints before) Well, I can’t spill “You are the best and irreplaceable, thank you very much,” etc. The maximum I can do - this is on: “Congratulations” We decided to improve, the child went to training with candy, it turns out she wrote words of gratitude in her diary (I saw it later). She came upset, she scolded her that she “didn’t need a coach,” and handed out candy to the children after the workout.

In the evening I decided to write to her in OK and asked what happened, that the child understood that she had offended her, she did not understand why. It turns out that our TR raised the issue that “left-wing” people accompany children to the final, who just want to ride to such competitions, their child was injured, but the coach should accompany him, and the child said that the parents let him go, and the coach’s opinion does not matter. I spent the whole evening trying to calm her down and explain that if the coach was not important, then the child would not worry so much, and that we cannot influence who will be taken as an accompaniment, the child simply will not be taken either (there have already been such cases when the children were not released and were filmed) that there were also good people accompanying them. All the answers were in a sarcastic tone like “Do as you want, I realized that I should know my place and mind my own business, don’t let your good people worry,” etc.

Now during training she doesn’t work with her at all (she gives general tasks and that’s it, swims and lets swim) All statuses, with hints and insults. The last one is under the photo, her pupil came third, she is congratulated in OK - her answer (believe us in our address)

Thank you! All that remains is to wish the same to all other smart people and smart people! They can too if they want to work!
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Unless, of course, the coach is given a place to sit next to him, otherwise they will say: “Your number is last, don’t poke your nose into something that’s not your own, we’re nuggets ourselves!”

I don’t want to quarrel with her, I don’t want to turn the child against her, but the child’s psyche is more important to me than sports results.

I don't understand WHAT SHE WANTS FROM US???

Concept. What article is provided?

The honor and dignity of a minor citizen are protected by the same laws that apply to persons who have reached the age of eighteen.

Insulting a minor considered: ridicule, unethical remarks, offensive comparisons, obscene statements, indecent gestures and proposals on the part of younger persons, peers or adult citizens, committed during personal communication between the victim and the accused party, publicly or using the Internet or mobile communications.

Punishment for insult a minor child is determined by the court, guided by the elements of the offense and the provisions of Art. 5.61 Code of Administrative Offenses of the Russian Federation.

Criminal liability for insult to a minor does not occur provided that the consequences of the offense did not lead to loss of health or life of the injured party.

The minimum amount is 1000 rubles. Collection from a civilian cannot exceed 3,000 rubles.

An insult inflicted by an official during the performance of his immediate professional duties may result in the collection of funds in the amount of 10,000-30,000 rubles.

Kinds

Personal insult– verbal offensive statements in personal communication or expression of hostility through unethical gestures, ridicule about appearance, social status.

- humiliation of dignity in connection with religious views, behavior in accordance with the traditions of religion, which does not violate public order, does not interfere with the usual legal way of life of other persons.

– posting offensive statements, images with immoral content, etc. on the pages of the victim’s account, on pages with public access.

Insulting a minor over the phone– systematically expressing rude and unethical remarks using landline or mobile communications.

Insulting a child by a child. In public or when communicating in a personal format, humiliation of a child’s dignity by another child in the form of ridicule, name-calling, ridicule of appearance, hobbies, etc.

Insulting a child by another child

In the absence of aggravating conditions (for example, harm to health, slanderous statements, threat to life - subject to the ability to carry out the threat), for any proven case insults administrative punishment is imposed.

What is the punishment?

Since minors are considered persons who do not have their own income, an administrative penalty in the form of a fine - according to article for insulting a child 5.61 of the Code of Administrative Offenses of the Russian Federation, will be borne by the parents of the accused.

Punishment for a minor who insults another person

Administrative – fine.

The amount of the penalty is determined by the conditions under which the insult was inflicted, the facts that the injured party was able to present to confirm its claims to the accused.

The process of filing a claim with the court is handled by the representative of the interests of the injured minor - a parent, guardian.

Punishment for insulting a child by a child

Unfortunately the facts insulting a child at school, are not uncommon, can be observed both on the part of students in relation to other students, and on the part of teachers towards their students.

The most common types of insults:

• Ridicule from students about appearance and physical characteristics.
• The teacher making fun of the appearance, level of performance of the student, or individual students in the class.
• Calling a student or several students names by the teacher.

Insulting a child at school

It doesn't matter under what circumstances teacher insulted student. A teacher has no right to humiliate the dignity of another citizen, including a minor. Moreover, one who is in the care of an adult, albeit not permanently, but while the latter is in an educational institution.

Student teacher

By going to court. First, you can try to talk with the teacher and find out the reason for unethical and unprofessional behavior, try reconcile the teacher and the offended them student by apologizing from the first to the second. In some cases, it may turn out that the apology must be mutual.

If in the absence of the student/s provocative actions, the teacher’s behavior does not change, and the appeal to the management of the educational institution did not bring changes in the format of communication between the teacher and the student, then the parent/guardian of the child who is being insulted has the right to file a claim in court.

It should be remembered that parent/guardian baby has the right to go to court because of teacher insulting a student or another child, without preliminary conversations with the parents of the offender, or himself, the leader (if the offender is a teacher).

When going to court, in addition to the statement of claim with a claim, the submitter of the paper must attach evidence of the fact of the insult. This could be a video recorded by a surveillance camera, a mobile phone, testimony from students, adults, a scan of a page on a social network, confirmed by a notary.

In case the main proof inappropriate teacher behavior are witness statements, the statement of claim should be accompanied by information about citizens who previously agreed to speak during the court hearing (full name, contact information).

How to punish a teacher for insulting a student?

Often minors forget that the people around them have the same legal rights. Therefore, they are sincerely surprised when they learn that they, too, albeit indirectly, can be held accountable for offensive words and actions.

Teacher's student

Does the law provide for punishment for a minor for insulting a teacher?

No. If the injured person goes to court and the court recognizes the fact of the offense, administrative punishment for the unlawful behavior of the minor will be imposed on his parents/guardians.

Student by student

Actually no.

In fact, in the event of a trial, assessors can oblige the parents of the offending minor student to pay a fine to the parents of the victim student.

If the accused is an adult student, then penalties based on the conditions will be applied to him articles 5.61 Code of Administrative Offenses of the Russian Federation for insult to children.

Insulting a child by an adult

For insulting a child by any adult, the court has the right to impose a fine.

Mutual courtesy between minors and the people around them is the best way to avoid legal squabbles and unforeseen expenses in the form of administrative penalties.

Everyone is equal before the law, therefore both adults and minors can pay for being rude to another person.

Useful video

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Child's age: 7 years

Coach humiliates a child

My daughter has been participating in the sports section for four years now. There are certain results. I knew that the coach could spank my arm or leg for incorrectly performed exercises. But today in the sports diary I saw an inscription in my daughter’s hand: “I’m a fool” and below a signature in an adult’s hand: “I confirm. There are no even attempts to hear and do.” I'm shocked. I asked my daughter how it was, it turns out that the coach forced her to write this phrase in her diary. She cried and wrote (to the question “why? You don’t think so..” the daughter said that she was afraid that she would be scolded). The coach said that at the next lesson she would either write “this is not true” or “I confirm” and so... today I saw what I described above. It is not customary for us to interfere in coaching work, but I think that this situation is out of the ordinary... Tell me what is the right way (for a child) to get out of this situation? She is a very emotional, open and vulnerable child... Thank you. Maria

Maria

I rarely speak like this, but this is an outrageous situation. I can recommend one of the possible solutions. Make an entry in my daughter’s diary: “If I don’t see an apology in writing, I will file a complaint with the director and the education department.” And if she doesn't apologize, really file a complaint. It is not necessary to follow the further fate of your complaint, do not set yourself the goal of somehow influencing or taking revenge on the coach, you asked the right question - “what is best for the child.” It is better for the child if you put reciprocal pressure on the coach who pressured and humiliated her, thus standing up for her defense. It is in actions that children believe, not in words. Your action will be a hundred times stronger than the words that “you are not a fool at all, you should not allow others to humiliate you.” Yes, this will ruin the relationship with the coach. But this is not important, because it is impossible to remain in this section under the guidance of a coach who uses humiliation of children, not to mention physical punishment, as a pedagogical technique. Moreover, if it is your child who has already suffered morally from the actions of the coach. So you need to leave anyway. But before leaving, you should record that you are ready, not in words, but in deeds, to defend the interests of your daughter. Use a threat against the coach, go to class with your daughter and wait for her in the lobby or locker room, and regardless of whether the coach apologizes or not, it is better that this is your daughter’s last class. Do not develop the conflict further; on the contrary, avoid it; except for filing a complaint in the absence of an apology, nothing else is needed. Victory is not needed, the very fact of readiness for decisive action is needed.